When to say "Because"

Here is the situation:

The boss asked: "Can you complete the project by next month?"
The employee respond: "Well, you know, my wife is sick, I have other stuff to do, and this project is overwhelming to me, and I can't do it by my self. Because of those, I don't think I can do it."
Or he may answer: "Cheeze, this is so easy. I can do it. This part can be done like this, like this or like that. You know, everything is kinda basic to me."

Regardless his capability to finish the work or not, his boss will not like him at all. When questions and requests come to one, they don't seek to understand his inside, his thinking, his way of doing it or what is going on with him. In the other words, all of the "because of this, because of that" will become trash throwing into their ears; and obviously, people don't want dirty objects to absorb into their bodies. Thus, your argument and speech will sound very weak when talking trash that nobody listen to; it seems like your are trying to hide something or to defend yourself. Imagine you are in the situation of explaining the police about your arrests, speaking "blah, blah, blah," that is how you look like. So, when you should pop up your reasons?

Two cases. First, when people ask. And second, talk it to yourself.

The Communication 100 class teaches that the basic of communication is to respond to others' requests or interests. If one is not in the mood of listening to politics, no matter how well you know about the "Change" campaign of Obama and how well you can preach to one person, you will not be heard. The same result comes to our situation of "because."

It is a fact that people have interests in themselves rather than others. And if lucky, they may be curious in someone who provide benefits and entertainment to them. So don't waste your word by telling people about your rubbish reasons. Speak up when someone is interested in. Therefore, say "because" when others ask "why."

The second case takes place in the conversation of yourself. There is no need to be understood by others; but, at the very bottom line, you must understand yourself. Usually, we respond to problems according to our own reasons. And understanding yourself is a resolution to prepare and resist repeating mistakes.

So, don't make yourselves look weak. We'd better believe in what we say is right; and if it is right, there is no need to explain, unless people seek for it.

Tell me what you think, :)